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Volunteer: MOBB United Needs You

Posted By Tiffany A. Bargeman, Sunday, December 24, 2017
Updated: Tuesday, October 24, 2017

By Depelsha McGruder

The Founders Corner - Depelsha McGruder

 
     Over the past year, MOBB United was busy at work advocating for the protection of our sons. We made our national debut at the Essence Festival in New Orleans this Summer and with the OWN Network on a show called “Checked Inn” this Fall.

     Moms of Black Boys United, a 501(c)(3), hosted more than 12 webinars with guest speakers, partnered with university professors on research studies and a nationwide online public course, provided resources and support to moms and sons in need of help navigating various situations, launched #MomsontheFrontLine and continued to build on the #ProtectThem campaign, held weekly prayer and meditation calls, launched a self-care campaign, started a book club, co-curated a list of positive books for Black boys, and hosted mother/son MLK Day of Service activities in 11 cities.

     MOBB United for Social Change, a 501(c)(4), held MOBB United Lobby Days at several State Capitols, held meetings with Congressional representatives in multiple states around the country, hosted a screening and panel discussion at the CBC Legislative Conference, hosted more than 20 local meetings to build membership, and mobilized moms to show up and speak out on key legislation in seven states and in more than 20 cases involving police brutality and discrimination against Black boys and men.

     Yes, we have been busy! What’s most amazing is that we managed to do all of this with a very strong but mighty core group of volunteers. MOBBs from coast to coast have dedicated their time and talents to create advocacy campaigns, research policy legislation, call elected officials, design graphics, write public statements and social media posts, design educational seminars and materials, develop self care campaigns and activities, build resources for our database, recruit volunteers and chapter leaders, moderate our Facebook group, build and maintain our website and social media platforms, counsel and support MOBBs in need, create content for our website, and even produce and edit this newsletter! (Heeeyyy, Tiffany and C.K.!)

     We would not be where we are without this group of dedicated moms, but the truth is, to sustain the organization and grow it to the next level, we need more people to get involved. Whatever your interests or talents may be, we can find a place for you. No matter how much or how little time you have to spare, we would love to have you. As Shirley Chisholm said, “Service is the rent we pay for the privilege of living on this earth.” What better way to serve than by dedicating some of your time to joining together with other moms around the country to protect our sons. We are also in the process of selecting local chapter leaders, so I also encourage you to step up and get involved in your local area.

     As I reflect on my year in MOBB United, my heart is full of pride for all that we’ve accomplished and filled with sincere gratitude for our faithful members and volunteers. THANK YOU, and enjoy the holidays!!!

     xoxo,

     Depelsha

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Supporting Moms of Black Boys United, Inc.

Posted By Tiffany A. Bargeman, Sunday, October 15, 2017
Updated: Thursday, September 7, 2017

By Depelsha McGruder

      
The Founders Corner - Depelsha McGruder       If you’ve been following our organization for a while, you already know that there are two sides to MOBB United’s mission and approach. MOBB United for Social Change, Inc. (MUSC) is our membership organization, which is dedicated to advocating for policy change at the local, state and federal level. Through MUSC, we articulate a united agenda to push public officials and systems to pass legislation and implement changes that improve the lives of Black boys and men.

       This month’s newsletter is dedicated to our sister organization, Moms of Black Boys United, Inc., a 501c3. I describe Moms of Black Boys United as the “doing our part” organization. While pushing the system to change through MUSC, we must also make sure we are doing all that we can to prepare our sons adequately for the challenges they will face and the opportunities that will become available to them.

       Moms of Black Boys United, Inc. aims to be a comprehensive resource for moms of Black sons. Our vision is to become a “one stop shop” for moms, by equipping them with access to information and resources that enable them to advocate most effectively for their sons in all kinds of situations. Currently, we are focused on helping moms navigate the education, criminal justice and mental health systems. Our goal is to help prevent our sons from falling into many of the pitfalls and traps that are set for Black males. And when tragedy strikes, we want to have the resources to be there in tangible ways for moms and sons in need.

       For those of you who’ve joined our Saturday calls, you know that we have regular speakers on all kinds of topics that are relevant for moms and sons – from Know Your Rights and How to Interact with Law Enforcement to Preventing Bullying and the School to Prison Pipeline. Over the next year, we want to expand from virtual seminars to in-person forums and discussions in cities all over the country to amplify our message and include community stakeholders in developing solutions. In addition, we want to continue to reverse negative perceptions of our sons by telling our stories in a variety of mediums.

       The good news is we have the talent within MOBB United to accomplish all of this and more. What we don’t have is the financial resources. To date, our organization has been completely self-funded; but to grow and expand, we need your help. Please consider donating to Moms of Black Boys United, Inc. this month at mobbunited.org/donate. I hope you will take the time to read this month’s issue to learn more about Moms of Black Boys United’s efforts and how you can help.

       In service and solidarity,

       Depelsha

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Founder's Corner - An Open Letter to the President

Posted By Tiffany A. Bargeman, Saturday, September 2, 2017
Updated: Saturday, September 2, 2017

By Depelsha McGruder

 

     Our sons are heading back to school, and heavy on my mind is what they may encounter when walking or driving home from school. In this age of “law and order,” it is our responsibility to make sure they are well aware and prepared for what the current climate may bring. If those who have vowed to protect and serve all citizens were to listen to our nation's leader, law enforcement officers have carte blanche to act as judge and jury on the streets, before someone is convicted of a crime. As a mom, the thought any of our sons becoming a victim of mistaken identity based on “fitting the description” of a suspect, then being roughed up by police with a direct endorsement from the President is a very scary proposition.

    On July 28, President Donald Trump addressed an audience of law enforcement officers in Suffolk County, NY. I responded with this open letter on behalf of MOBB United for Social Change (MUSC). I’m still waiting to hear back from him.

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The Root

Posted By Tiffany A. Bargeman, Friday, August 4, 2017
Updated: Monday, July 17, 2017

By Depelsha McGruder

     Except it’s not irrational when you consider that one year later, the cases that initially triggered my MOBB=disorder symptoms—the graphic police killings of Alton Sterling in Baton Rouge, La., and Philando Castile in St. Anthony, Minn.—both ended with no one being held accountable for their deaths. The Justice Department declined to charge Blane Salamoni, the officer who killed Sterling, and a jury found Jeronimo Yanez, the officer who killed Castile with his girlfriend and her 4-year-old daughter in the car, not guilty of any criminal wrongdoing.

     In addition, since last year, the list of unarmed black males killed in deadly encounters with law enforcement has grown. Terence Crutcher, Paul O’Neal, Kajuan Raye, Tyre King, Alfred Olango, Reginald Thomas and, most recently, three unarmed 15-year-olds—Jordan Edwards, Jayson Negron and Darius Smith—have all been killed since last July.

     And it’s not just the cases that lead to death that trigger our fear and worry. Black males face daily misperceptions and harassment, which increases the likelihood of them one day having an unwarranted deadly encounter.

     Just ask Michael McGill, a high-level professional who was traveling internationally for work when he was suddenly stopped outside the Kansas City, Mo., airport by an officer and told to freeze and put his hands against the wall. Or the five innocent, unarmed 12- to 14-year-olds in Grand Rapids, Mich., who, while walking home from playing basketball in their neighborhood, were unexpectedly stopped and held at gunpoint for more than 10 minutes because police officers believed that they “fit the description” of suspects. Or Charles Kinsey, a therapist for an autistic patient in North Miami, Fla., who, while trying to help his patient, was assumed to be a suspect and shot by police instead. Or the multiple black men who have called police to report a robbery or threat to their home, only to be shot themselves once police arrived. Although they all made it out alive, the trauma from those experiences will live with them and their families indefinitely.

     Yet in the backdrop of all of this ugliness and collective stress, I’ve had one of the most amazing and unexpected experiences of my life. To try to deal with the trauma from seeing graphic images of brutality and death repeatedly, one year ago today (July 7, 2016), I started a Facebook group for moms of black boys and men—initially sending it to about 30 friends—that grew to more than 21,000 moms from all around the country the same day. I really had no idea what would happen after that.

     I could not have imagined then that one year later, the group would have grown to more than 177,000 moms from around the country and world, and evolved into two nonprofit organizations that are completely fueled and run by volunteers made up of the dynamic women I met on Facebook last summer.

     Moms of Black Boys United Inc. provides vital information and support to moms of black sons and promotes positive images of black boys and men. MOBB United for Social Change, Inc., our advocacy arm, aims to influence policy that impacts how black boys and men are treated and perceived by law enforcement and in society as whole. We’ve developed a multi-pronged approach that includes influencing policy, changing perception, demonstrating our political and economic power, promoting self-care, and partnering strategically with other organizations who are working to solve these problems for black males as well as for others who face similar injustices.

     MOBB United has mobilized and empowered moms of black sons all around the country and world to stand up and take action. We’ve hosted virtual seminars with experts on topics like “Know Your Rights” and “How to Interact With Law Enforcement” to “Recognizing and Preventing Bullying” and “Discussing Racial Tensions in Schools.” We’ve provided support in various forms to moms who’ve since lost their sons in deadly encounters with law enforcement. We’ve lobbied for policy change at state capitols, in commission meetings and via phone, letter-writing, email and social media campaigns. These moms are fired up and committed to doing all we can to protect our sons. We don’t want anyone else to experience the pain and devastation that the women known as the “Mothers of the Movement” have experienced.

     We don’t call ourselves activists. We are advocates for our sons who are simply doing what every parent is supposed to do: nurture and protect our children. But when you’re a mom of a black boy, that requires you to know and do some extra stuff.

     It requires you to know that black boys are more likely to be disciplined in schools for the same behaviors that other children display but are not punished for. It requires you to know that they are less likely to be referred to gifted and talented programs, even when they meet the criteria, and are more likely to be referred to special education. It requires you to know that there is a prison bed on hold for them if they don’t know how to read by the third grade. It requires you to know that there is a trap set for them called the school-to-prison pipeline that is highly profitable, and that states often sign contracts with private prisons that guarantee 90 percent occupancy. It requires you to know that black males are three times more likely to be killed by police than other citizens.

     MOBB United is equipping moms with information that empowers them to be better advocates for their sons in all the institutions that interact with and influence them. You see, the problem is that our sons always “fit the description” and are assumed to be the aggressor. They are viewed and treated like wild, irrational animals. Not a person with hopes and dreams. Not someone who loves others and is loved. Not someone’s father, husband, brother, uncle or nephew. Not someone’s beloved son.

     MOBB United aims to change this perception. We are committed to doing all we can to raise our sons to be respectful, kind, productive and, when appropriate, yes, compliant. We are committed to providing them access to a wide variety of educational experiences and enrichment opportunities to give them the best-possible chance at success in life. We are committed to building strong families and creating support systems. We are committed to being engaged parents in our sons’ schools, and involved citizens in our communities and local, state and federal governments.

     But when we do all of that, we need assurance that the system works for us, too. We need to have confidence that our sons will be treated equally under the law. We demand accountability on the other side. And when rogue or unqualified officers unjustly kill one of our sons, we need to see a conviction, not excuses about how the officers “feared for their lives” from someone who posed no obvious threat. We want all of our sons and all law-enforcement officers to make it home safely every night.

     Our work is clearly a marathon, not a sprint. But these women have helped me to move from fear to fortitude. Now, instead of being balled up in a knot in tears on my bed, I stand in a global circle of moms who I know understand my perspective, have my back and are committed to working together to find solutions. We will not give up. We will not accept this as normal and just the way it is. And united, we will change the narrative and ensure that our sons survive, thrive and build strong legacies.

The Root aims to foster and advance conversations about issues relevant to the black Diaspora by presenting a variety of opinions from all perspectives, whether or not those opinions are shared by our editorial staff. (Re-posted from The Root's publication)


Depelsha McGruder is a happily married mom of two boys and an entertainment executive living in Brooklyn, N.Y. She is a graduate of Howard University and Harvard Business School. 

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The Founder's Corner

Posted By Tiffany A. Bargeman, Monday, June 26, 2017
Updated: Monday, July 3, 2017

 

MOBB United Founder Depelsha McGruder

By Depelsha McGruder

 

          Welcome to the first newsletter of Moms of Black Boys United, Inc. (MOBB United)! If you are new to the organization, we are thrilled to have you here. If you have been with us since our beginning on Facebook last summer, thank you for continuing with us on this journey. In case you’re not familiar with our history, MOBB United started as a Facebook group on July 7, 2016, immediately following multiple deaths of Black men at the hands of law enforcement. In particular, Alton Sterling was killed in Baton Rouge, Louisiana on July 5 while selling CDs outside of a convenience store, and Philando Castile was killed in St. Anthony, Minnesota on July 6, 2016 following a “routine” traffic stop, with his girlfriend and 4-year-old daughter in the car. We all experienced the graphic images of their brutal deaths on the news and in the case of Mr. Castile, who was a beloved Montessori school cafeteria worker, on Facebook Live. The frustration, fear, anger and anxiety we all felt then is what initially brought us  together. What has kept us together is an unrelenting desire and determination to prevent our own sons and anyone else’s sons from reaching that same fate.

 

          Since the founding of MOBB United, we have continued to grow and evolve organizationally. MOBB United now also includes an advocacy arm, MOBB United for Social Change, Inc. whose primary purpose is to influence policy impacting how Black boys and men are treated and perceived by law enforcement and society.

 

          Over the past year, we have have been strategizing, organizing and activating all across the country. Both organizations have been busy! Here are a few of the things we’ve executed:

 

          Moms of Black Boys United, Inc.:

Attended funerals and provided support for those lost to excessive use of force. A delegation from Texas traveled to Tulsa, OK for Terrence Crutcher’s funeral and presented his wife with a gift. A delegation from California traveled to San Diego to support the family of Alfred Olango and in Los Angeles, provided tangible support to the family of Reginald Thomas, Jr. Our team also created the funeral program for 15-year-old Darius Smith, killed by an off-duty US Customs Officer in Arcadia, CA, in a gesture of MOBB outreach. MOBB United for Social Change urged the City of Balch Springs to push forward on urgently needed police reforms in response to the unjust killing of Jordan Edwards.

Launched multiple image campaigns, including the #ProtectThem campaign to bring more awareness to our cause and promote positive images of Black boys and men, and the #MomsontheFrontLine campaign to pay homage to mom activists who came before us.

-  Hosted meetings or events in more than 20 cities

 Partnered with Points of Light (POL) to execute a nationwide Mother/Son Volunteer Day of Service on MLK Day to teach our sons the importance of service and let the world see them in positive action (POL volunteer site)

Provided personal support and connections to members in need, including connecting a mom with an attorney for critically needed legal help, helping moms navigate school disciplinary actions, and providing “MOBB Aunties Away from Home” for sons away for college.

-  Hosted virtual seminars on topics including Know Your Rights (in partnership with the Legal Aid Society and National Association for Public Defense), Bullying, the 13th Documentary, Dealing with Trauma, isow.com (financial literacy and planning for children), the Legal Equalizer app, Discussing Racial Tensions in Schools, The School to Prison Pipeline, the Criminal Justice System from both sides of the cell (Booker Geez: “Locked Up and Put Away”), How to Handle Interactions with Law Enforcement (with Retired LAPD Sgt. Cheryl Dorsey, author Sonya Whittaker Gragg and parents of the “Michigan 5”) and a special Father’s Day Weekend discussion on the criminal justice system and current cases with Civil Rights Attorney Lee Merritt.

 

          MOBB United for Social Change, Inc.:

 

Rallied around multiple policy change actions, such as a de-escalation bill introduced in Congress last year (HR 5221), Raise the Age in NY, and The Sandra Bland Act in TX.

Partnered with Louisianans for Prison Alternatives (LPA) to advocate for a criminal justice reform package to overhaul Louisiana's draconian criminal justice laws.

Traveled to let our voices be heard all over the country – at the Democratic National Convention (DNC) in Philadelphia, Congressional Black Caucus (CBC) Conference in DC and in meetings with state legislators in Georgia, Louisiana, New York and California.

Organized a voter education campaign to encourage members to learn who is on their ballot and to vote in their elections.

Petitioned (via petitions, letters to officials, emails and calls) to hold law enforcement accountable in the cases of Alton Sterling, Philando Castile, Terrence Crutcher, Tyre King, Kajuan Raye, Paul O’Neal, Jordan Edwards, Darius Smith and Jayson Negron.

 

          Although we’ve accomplished a lot, we’re really just getting started. The Leadership Team of MOBB United has spent the last few months refining our goals, strategies and initiatives and we are very excited about our plans for the next year.

 

          We are grateful for your support and look forward to partnering with you to make a difference in the lives of our sons and the lives of Black boys and men everywhere. Thank you for believing. United, we WILL prevail!

 

          With sincere gratitude and hope for the future,

 

          Depelsha

   

 

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National Vision Board Day

Posted By Administration, Friday, January 13, 2017
Last week, many of you participated in our virtual vision board party hosted by guru Lucinda Cross-Otiti. She taught us how to represent our goals and dreams for ourselves and our sons visually and in living color. By doing so, we are guaranteed to manifest amazing things in our lives. Saturday, January 14 is National Vision Board Day. We encourage you to share your vision boards with the group, even if they are still works in progress! We look forward to seeing your dreams come true over the next year. Lucinda encouraged us to set BOLD goals. My bold goal is to take MOBB United to the next level and for us to truly have an impact as a group of highly informed, engaged, motivated and powerful moms. Thank you for joining me on this exciting journey! xoxo, Depelsha

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Virtual Vision Board Party for Moms & Sons

Posted By Depelsha T. McGruder, Friday, January 13, 2017
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Saturday, January 7, 2017 at 9:30am EDT, join us for Mommy & Son Vision Board Party! Make your own Vision Board with our own member & expert seen in Essence and on the Today Show, Lucinda Cross-Otiti! All of December, our MOBB United Special Needs Moms will prepare for next year with their SUNs by creating and sharing their Vision Boards. Look for their posts that will help you gather materials & get ready for the session with the hashtag #MOBBUVision. TAG and TELL a FRIEND

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Justice for KaJuan Raye

Posted By Depelsha T. McGruder, Friday, January 13, 2017
On Thanksgiving Day, while most of us enjoyed special time with friends and family, KaJuan Raye's mother was finding out that her 19-year-old son had been killed by police. He was on the way home and mistaken for a suspect. He was shot in the back while running away. The police officer said KaJuan pointed a gun at him, but more than a week later, no gun has been found. This case has not received a lot of media attention, but as Moms of Black Boys, we cannot remain silent when another mother's son is gunned down like an animal. We should not wait for the video and outrage. We must speak up and demand justice for this young man now. The police officer has been stripped of his police duties, but is on paid administrative leave. He should be charged immediately, and an independent investigation should be conducted by the Justice Department. Please join us in demanding justice for KaJuan by signing our petition and spreading the word. Let's bring more awareness to this case! https://campaigns.organizefor.org/petitions/moms-of-black-boys-united-seeks-justice-for-kajuan-raye-chicago-il

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Virtual Viewing Party for 13th Documentary

Posted By Administration, Monday, November 28, 2016
I just finished viewing the documentary “13th” on Netflix that was produced by the uber talented Ava Duvernay. Wow. I am left speechless at how well it describes the history of African-Americans’ ongoing relationship with being enslaved (both legally and illegally) in the United States. Specifically, 13th outlines the provisions and loopholes in the 13th amendment. It takes a look at the prison industrial complex and how the war on drugs, privatization of prisons and the need for profit have driven policies that have led to filling prisons at any cost. Most often, the cost is paid by young Black men. Our sons.

This documentary is a must see in that it frames and helps to aid greater awareness and understanding of the tall challenge of the work that we have to do. That’s why M.O.B.B. United is hosting a virtual viewing party. We encourage everyone to watch this important film. We will host a discussion on it very soon, so stay tuned for more information.

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M.O.B.B. United Petition for Terence Crutcher

Posted By Administration, Monday, November 28, 2016
I tried to stay in a cocoon for almost 24 hours trying to protect my mind and heart from news of yet another unarmed Black man being killed by Tulsa police. It took me a looong time to get up enough courage to watch the video. Terence Crutcher (40) had the misfortune of having car trouble on his way home from class and needing aid. But instead of receiving aid, he got a bullet from female police officer Betty Shelby, allegedly for “not complying” to any commands, though we have now all seen video of Terence walking to his car with his hands up. By the way, since when is “not complying to officer commands” an offense punishable by death? It’s not. Unless it’s one of our husbands, fathers, uncles, nephews or SONS. Yes, Terence Crutcher was someone’s son. And husband. And father. And student. And choir member. Yet, none of this mattered to Betty Shelby. I just have one question (well, maybe a few). Does Betty have a son? Has she ever loved and wanted to protect someone so much that it hurts? Has she ever feared for her life, from someone who’s taken an oath to protect her? Has she ever spent sleepless nights hoping and praying her son would make it home, without having unexpected car trouble and encountering some trigger-happy officer?

Sadly, this is a regular day on the job for us MOBBs. And it’s STRESSFUL. And SCARY. And anxiety-inducing. That’s why we need each other. And it’s why we need to DO SOMETHING to stop these unjustified killings of our sons. Since we started mourning Terence’s death, another Black man, Keith Lamont Scott (43), was killed by police in Charlotte. And this follows the killing of 13 year old Tyree King in Columbus, OH just last week. It’s too much to take. That’s why we’re supporting HR 5221, a bill to require deescalation training and implementation. That’s why we need you to sign this petition right NOW to stand up for Terence. Sign the petition to honor his mother. Sign this petition to offer some measure of comfort to his twin sister. Share this petition to build up his four children. They’re counting on us. And our sons are too. #MOBBUnited

https://campaigns.organizefor.org/petitions/mobb-united-for-terence-crutcher-tulsa-ok

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